I know the time for us has past,
but you must know one thing.
I could have given you everything you wanted,
everything you needed.

- Kele Okereke “Everything You Wanted”

..and how your heatwave ran
Through our snow black fields
- The Stills “Helicopters”

I told you about the Stills (whoa, checkout the myspace change) last week; free show at The Distillery District for a Lexus event. There was a great event beforehand hosted by Rock-It Promotions, which gave a chance for everyone to hang out and enjoy some great local beers before the show. I was running late after work, but was glad to grab a pint with some of the twitter folk to catch up. It was cool, as it felt like a bar venue but outside, and a bit more spread out. There were Lexus cars parked along the cobblestone, which made for a cool contrast. But mainly, it was really great to see a luxury brand so heavily engaged with those who are their future target demographic. NotableTV did a great job reaching out to bloggers and getting them to hype up and attend the event. They have a great wrap-up of the entire weekend (and a video to make you drool over the Lexus) and while you are over there, make sure you subscribe to their mailing list — they just gave free Stella Artois pouring kits to those who do!  Overall, there was a lot of people talking about the event, days prior and days after.

The Stills show itself was perfectly balanced. I heard enough of the older songs to keep me entertained, and dancing, including one of my favourite, Helicopters.

Sean Ward did a wicked job taking video of the entire night, and I make a cameo in it (as does my friend Andrea). Watch.

“There are people we wouldn’t dream of thinking about all the time if they hadn’t begun to ignore us.”

Anything to make you smile
You are the ever-living ghost of what once was
I never want to hear you say
That you’d be better off
Or you liked it that way
- Band of Horses “No One’s Gonna Love You”

I have seen The Stills live at least 10 times, and they always put on an amazing show. Luckily for me (and you!), NotableTV gave me a heads up (and asked me to give you one) about a free show The Stills are playing Friday, August 27th in the Distillery District at 55 Mill Street (yes, as in the yummy organic beer) as part of a weekend long event that is showcasing Lexus’ new hybrid, the CT 200h. All weekend long (the 27th-29th) you can listen to amazing bands, drink free beverages, and play (not drive, free drinks remember!?) with a luxury hybrid. Or, if you are geeky like me, you can interact with the car through means of an iPad instead. Any excuse to play with an iPad!

I must warn you against wearing heels, however, as the cobblestone at the Distillery District can be tres dangereuse (as I unfortunately learned the hard way).

In addition to The Stills, there are three other amazing Canadian bands: Lily Frost, The Midway State and Paper Lions.

To learn more about this event, including band set times, be sure to visit NotableTV and subscribe for invites to future exclusive events like these!

Explosive highs
To breakneck lows
Every mirror in
The house has broke
The moon is red
And the sky is green
In the loneliest place
You’ve ever been
I’m with you
I’m with you
If you want me to
- The Stills “I’m With You”

There are few phrases that upon hearing, can make a person feel so much joy, yet so much sadness. I miss you is one of these phrases.

Those people were overjoyed; they took to their boats.
I thought it less like a lake and more like a moat.
The rhythm of my footsteps crossing flood lands to your door have been silenced forever more.
The distance is quite simply much too far for me to row, it seems farther than ever before.
I need you so much closer.

- Death Cab for Cutie “Transatlanticism”

This is where I’m from.

It sounds like we
would of had a great deal to say
to each other
I bet when I leave
my body for the sky
the wait will be worth it
- Local Natives “Airplanes”

Just gonna stand there and watch me burn,
But that’s alright because I like the way it hurts.
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry,
But that’s alright because I love the way you lie.
I love the way you lie.

- Eminem feat. Rihanna “Love the way you lie”

Recently I was asked what was more important in a relationship: passion, or dependability? I struggled to answer. My inner gut went directly for the passion, of course, as I am one of the most passionate people you will ever meet. No one would ever accuse me of of not showing emotion, never a robot. Rather, it is a daily struggle for me to hold back, bite my tongue, take a deep breath. Occasionally, my grip lessens, usually with each sip of a drink or day of being ignored, until eventually, for a slight moment, this passion overcomes me.

I have had those relationships. The ones that have the highest of highs, with even lower lows. Nights filled with tears, constant fighting that tortures your soul. Hurtful words are exchanged just to feel that rush, the intensity of emotion, the feeling of hate caught up in that of love. The lack of sanity. Then finally, once the storm has settled, the reconciliation, you feel even stronger than before. The passionate nights, the exchange of those three powerful words. There are few greater highs, you feel invincible. Until, it falls apart once again. It always does. The lack of stability, the insanity. Habits start to form, patterns of disrespect, abuse. Verbal and physical. Such abnormality becomes normality. You accept it because you love them.

I refuse to believe that love is based on purely passion, a part of loving someone so much it hurts, mentally or even, physically. The passion can be blinding. The screaming fights, the tears, the insecurity, the pain. These are not, and should not, be attributes of love.

I need someone to balance me out, someone who will stay level headed when I cannot. I can overreact, I can get angry, say things I don’t mean, but love means you will love me not only in spite of all those things, but maybe even because of them. When it’s right, the passion in me can be good too. It will be unlike anything you, we, will ever feel.

So, despite my initial gut instinct to go purely on passion, I changed my response. It sounds so boring, but why? Because it’s someone who will take care of you? Someone who will love you, protect you? Someone who feels pain when you feel pain, someone who will do anything to prevent it, never intentionally inflict it. Someone where the words I love you are not only enough, but they don’t even need to be said because they understand you, they feel it, they know it. And you know it too. Stability. Trust. Dependability.

http://www.awhl.org/

Crisis Line: 1.866.863.0511

Anthony Kiedis. So sexy. The guitar riffs. Flea.